Wednesday, February 22, 2012

Addendum to Yesterday's Post

Hi Friends,

This morning I woke up in conflict.  I believe our words up to this point may have erred on the side of disrespect in regards to the doctor we have named "worst case scenario" doctor.  The meaning behind that name is not to be demeaning, it is what he told us he brings.  He explained last Wednesday it is his job to bring the "worst case scenario" and if it turns out not to be true then we are all excited and in the end, and no one is let down.  We are called to respect the men and women of knowledge God allows to cross our paths.  This particular doctor is one of the top in his field across the nation.  We are very blessed we have such highly regarded doctors working with us (sometimes we have to remind ourselves of this simply because of our difference of opinions in appropriate bedside manner).  We do not know him personally or where his faith may lie.  I think Eric and I have become weary of him simply because we agreed that last week, whenever he left our hospital room we were left feeling tired and defeated.  We now feel there is a reason this is the doctor we deal with most regularly and we are not in a position to judge him or anybody else. We have prayed that it would be God's words that fill these pages and not our own.  We know our God's words would not have painted a sinister picture.   We apologize and ask for your forgiveness if our words have allowed you to feel negatively towards this man. 

7 comments:

  1. I hope that you don't mind, but I've passed your blog link onto my mom and sister. We are praying! So many love you, Eric and this perfect baby so much. You have an incredible faith, Whitney! - Jenn Kibble

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  2. Thank you for taking the time to share your story with us here. We want to understand what you are going through, but respect your privacy too much to ask outright sometimes. It will also help keep the account straight, and save you many retellings...
    It will be exciting to see how God uses your openness to touch lives, starting with Dr.WCS and your sensitivity toward him that prompted this post. And maybe that lady from Qatar will post here one day... God's six degrees of Thatcher's story...
    Continued blessings on you, Stephanie J, CRBC

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  3. It's the doc's job to prepare his patients for any potential outcomes. He knows this, and understands that patients often get put off and upset by outcomes that may be hard to hear. That said, calling him "worst case" doc isn't a bad thing, necessarily, since I'm sure he's used to it and wouldn't take it personally. I'd be willing to bet that he'd be much more offended if you didn't take his information to heart. Just my thoughts after many conversations with K's dad who is an ER doc.

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  4. Whitney, you have been through so much in the past week, Bad news is hard to take anytime, but it can be made worse if it is not delivered well. We received some scary news at the birth of youngest child and it was delivered with the worst bedside manner I have ever heard (that is saying a lot because I am inthe medical field). Praying for this doctor demonstrates an amazing gift of mercy. God will honor your obediance

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  5. Dear Eric and Whitney, I am so moved by your faith, wisdom, and the ability to express yourselves with such beautiful language. You are witnesses of God's love to the young and old alike, especially to young couples like yourselves. I am praying for continued strength- physically,emotionally,and spiritually in your daily lives as you are on this journey. God bless you today. Andrea DePrang

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  6. p.s.I just read in Habakkuk 1:5(who reads Habakkuk??)these words:"Look at the nations and watch-and be utterly amazed.For I am going to do something in your days that you would not believe, even if you were told." Hmmm..
    Love and prayers, Andrea

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  7. Eric & Whitney,
    I just want to say, God has blessed both of you in such a special way, and your story is one which is a testimony in its own. Just reading your story has brought some peace over me, and I know that God has a healing hand. We all have felt the anger, and discouragement doctors have left as far as their bedside manners and deliverance of the worst case scenario. Unfortunately all we can do is pray for them, but at the same time it is not wrong to feel the disbelief of a doctor who is taking care of you. It is your faith in God, which is giving you this peace, and love not only for each other, but for Thatcher. I believe "Miracles" do happen, and this will be one. God is miraculous in his own way, and uses his hands to lead us down a path we fear, but willing to take because of the faith you both have in Him. Please know our family is praying for you and your extended family.

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